Strategy Session
Attract Your Secure Relationship
Strategy Session™
For Anxious Attachment Style
Get clarity and hope.
Is your anxious attachment style sabotaging your relationships? You can shift towards Secure for easier, more fulfilling relationships with more trust, security, and deep connection.
Understanding your attachment style is just the first step to attracting a secure relationship, as you become aware of your relational patterns. A lot of people get to this step and then feel stuck, because they don't know how to make the changes they want. But here's the thing—you can move toward secure, and you don't have to figure it out alone. Whether you’re actively dating or in a self-growth phase in between relationships — that's where the strategy session comes in.
Together, we'll create a clear plan to help you shift toward secure attachment so you can enjoy the relationship you truly want—one that feels calm, connected, and built to last.
With the Attract Your Secure Relationship™
Strategy Session, you will:
Identify your attachment style composition — it's more nuanced than just one style in all circumstances. You'll get access to my attachment quiz that gives you percentages in each style.
Understand how your attachment style has been shaping your relationships and how to shift toward getting your needs met with more ease.
Identify relationship patterns that haven't been serving you and clarify what you want instead.
Envision what a secure, fulfilling relationship would look like for you.
Learn attachment strategies tailored to your particular style that you can implement right away on your own.
Explore how I could help you bring more relationship happiness into your life and whether 1:1 sessions are a good next step.
Receive a follow-up list of action steps you can take to create the relationship you truly want.
This session will be individualized to YOU and your particular attachment style.
Before the Session:
Please review the 4 different attachment styles, and if you have questions about them, we can go over them when we meet.
You will be emailed an Attachment Style Quiz prior to the session so you can get a clear idea of what your attachment style is. (Spoiler: You’re actually a blend of styles, and knowing the percentages will help us determine our approach!)
Please take the quiz and bring your results to get the most value out of our time together.
During the session:
This is a chance to identify your relationship problems and goals and discover how attachment style can help you achieve the relationship success you desire.
We will be focusing on strategies that support your individual attachment style and that I can help you with through 1-on-1 attachment sessions.
If it seems like the right fit for us to continue further, I will share a little at the end about the 1-on-1 sessions.
After the session:
Whether or not we choose to do the 1:1 sessions, you will have some new ideas about how to work on your attachment style for stronger, healthier relationships.
Key Points:
This low-pressure strategy session is around an hour in length.
The cost is $97, prepaid after session request is confirmed.
We will:
Identify what hasn't been working and what you want instead
Discuss attachment strategies for your particular style
Discuss how I can help you have more relationship happiness
Frequently Asked Questions
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Around an hour.
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$97, prepaid after session request is confirmed.
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Zoom — you will be emailed a link.
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I currently offer a Secure Attachment Rewire package for Anxious Attachment that includes the self-paced course with 3 additional 1:1 sessions for $495.
In general, sessions for all attachment styles are $170 for a single session, and packages reduce the price of per-session costs.
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I’ve found that people get more value and a better sense of what to expect from the full strategy session, so right now I’m just offering that. I may offer a free consult again in the future.
I also offer tons of free content on Instagram, YouTube, and my blog.
If you subscribe to my mailing list, I will send you free stuff in your email! (Who doesn’t want that? 🤩)
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I first learned about attachment style in 2014 and have been helping people with attachment since 2017. Through 1:1 sessions, self-paced courses, group workshops, guided meditations, a blog, and educational content on socials, I’ve helped thousands of people understand their attachment style and make changes for more relational well-being.
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I work with singles and individuals (not couples) in relationships. I especially love working with people who are in between relationships and in a “self-growth” phase.
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The Strategy Session is really strategizing what direction you want to go in and how these sessions could be helpful for you. I may also recommend courses or guided meditations that I think would be beneficial.
You will learn strategies for becoming more secure in relationships, but the deeper work happens in the 1:1 attachment sessions (for which the Strategy Session is a prerequisite).
In contrast, the 1:1 sessions cover a variety of topics and use a variety of different processes that may include…
Finding a partner
Improving relationships
Changing attachment style
Getting over a breakup
Attracting the wrong partners
Picking a good partner
Anxiety around dating
Meeting people
Body language
Clearing pain that's keeping you from love
Abandonment issues
Trust/Feeling safe
Boundaries
Spotting red flags in a potential partner
Feeling insecure or jealous
Conflict resolution and communication
Communicating wants and needs
And use processes such as:
Dynamic Attachment Re-Patterning
Havening Techniques™
Deep somatic work
Rewiring techniques
Parts work
Nervous system regulation
Communication skills
Somatic hypnosis
Body language training
Confidence boosting
Visualization,
And more…
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I totally understand, process work is super valuable and can even be fun! The Strategy Session gives us an orientation as to what would be most helpful for you. Just like you wouldn’t go to a gym to work with a trainer and jump into a workout without reviewing your goals and areas that need training, the Strategy Session points us in the right direction.
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I’m listing this because it came up once. I’m not an AI, I’m an actual person. I’m not sure how to prove this, but if you follow me on Instagram or YouTube, it should be obvious I hope! 😂
Discover the possibilities:
Create healthier relationship patterns
Navigate relationships with more ease
Dissolve old patterns like obsessing or chasing
Feel more love, security, & deep connection
“I feel much more secure with myself and in my relationships.” - S.S.
“Kayli gave me many tools to help maintain my calmness and objectivity in very stressful situations. I feel as though I am now better equipped to handle highly emotionally charged situations with composure.”
“She helped me “rewire” my emotional responses so that I no longer blindly use maladaptive defense mechanisms and can now be more objective and deliberate in how I respond.
This has been extremely helpful, especially with my long term relationships that have not been healthy previously.” -E.L.
I felt an immediate wave of relief and gratitude after each of our sessions together… her clear-eyed feedback and objective support helped me move forward and change my negative patterns. - D.S.
Kayli provided a safe place to work through intimacy challenges, to talk through and explore what was present for me, and to work through an issue from my past that turned out to be holding me back. I was then able to start dating and am now married to a beautiful, incredible woman! — J.S.
“Kayil is a wonderful coach. She’s somewhere between a cheerleader and a loving parent for me. I have never felt judged nor pushed. Our weekly conversations have been eye-opening, occasionally very challenging and yet always life-changing. I feel supported and encouraged. - R.H.
