Strategy Session
Attract Your Secure Relationship
Strategy Session™
For Anxious Attachment Style
Get clarity and hope.
Is your anxious attachment style sabotaging your relationships? You can shift towards Secure for easier, more fulfilling relationships with more trust, security, and deep connection.
Understanding your attachment style is just the first step to attracting a secure relationship, as you become aware of your relational patterns. A lot of people get to this step and then feel stuck, because they don't know how to make the changes they want. But here's the thing — you can move toward secure, and you don't have to figure it out alone. Whether you're actively dating or in a self-growth phase in between relationships — that's where the strategy session comes in.
Get to the root cause of your dating and relationship issues with a personalized anxious attachment strategy session. In this session, we use attachment theory to identify the root of your patterns — and you'll leave with clear insights, practical tools, and a personalized plan. If you choose to continue with 1:1 coaching, that work may include brain rewiring, guided visualization, somatic practices, and communication tools on your path toward secure attachment and lasting relationship happiness.
Tell me if this sounds like you:
You keep ending up in the same kind of relationship, wondering why the pattern keeps repeating
You're tired of overthinking texts, conversations, and "what did they mean by that?"
You lose yourself in relationships — chasing, people-pleasing, abandoning your own needs to keep the peace
You're in between relationships and finally ready to figure out your part in the pattern (no shame — it takes two, but your half is the only half you can change)
You're partnered and doing this work solo, ready to show up differently even if your partner isn't
You know your attachment style from all the Instagram posts — but knowing hasn't changed anything, and you want a plan, not more content
You want clarity on what to actually do next, from someone who's done this work personally and professionally
With the Attract Your Secure Relationship™
Strategy Session, you will:
Identify your attachment style composition — it's more nuanced than just one style in all circumstances. You'll get access to my attachment quiz that gives you percentages in each style.
Understand how your attachment style has been shaping your relationships and how to shift toward getting your needs met with more ease.
Identify relationship patterns that haven't been serving you and clarify what you want instead.
Envision what a secure, fulfilling relationship would look like for you.
Learn attachment strategies tailored to your particular style that you can implement right away on your own.
Explore how I could help you bring more relationship happiness into your life and whether 1:1 sessions are a good next step.
Receive a follow-up list of action steps you can take to create the relationship you truly want.
This session will be individualized to YOU and your particular attachment style.
Before the Session:
Please review the 4 different attachment styles, and if you have questions about them, we can go over them when we meet.
You will be emailed an Attachment Style Quiz prior to the session so you can get a clear idea of what your attachment style is. (Spoiler: You’re actually a blend of styles, and knowing the percentages will help us determine our approach!)
Please take the quiz and bring your results to get the most value out of our time together.
During the session:
This is a chance to identify your relationship problems and goals and discover how attachment style can help you achieve the relationship success you desire.
We will be focusing on strategies that support your individual attachment style and that I can help you with through 1-on-1 attachment sessions.
If it seems like the right fit for us to continue further, I will share a little at the end about the 1-on-1 sessions.
After the session:
Whether or not we choose to do the 1:1 sessions, you will have some new ideas about how to work on your attachment style for stronger, healthier relationships.
Key Points:
This low-pressure strategy session is around an hour in length.
The cost is $147, prepaid after session request is confirmed.
By the end of our session, you'll have:
Clarity on the exact pattern that's been running your love life — and what you want instead
Strategies tailored to your attachment style that you can use immediately
A personalized plan for creating more relationship happiness — plus a clear picture of how I can help you get there
Frequently Asked Questions
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Around an hour.
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$147, prepaid after session request is confirmed.
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Zoom — you will be emailed a link.
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In general, sessions are $170 for a single session, and packages reduce the per-session cost.
For those ready for a full transformation, I also offer the Secure Attachment Rewire program for Anxious Attachment Style — 8 weeks of 1:1 coaching with the complete curriculum, meditations, and workbooks. We'll explore whether it's the right fit on your Strategy Session. -
I’ve found that people get more value and a better sense of what to expect from the full strategy session, so right now I’m just offering that. I may offer a free consult again in the future.
I also offer tons of free content on Instagram, YouTube, and my blog.
If you subscribe to my mailing list, I will send you free stuff in your email! (Who doesn’t want that? 🤩)
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I first learned about attachment style in 2014 and have been helping people with attachment since 2017. Through 1:1 sessions, self-paced courses, group workshops, guided meditations, a blog, and educational content on socials, I’ve helped thousands of people understand their attachment style and make changes for more relational well-being.
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I work with singles and individuals — including people who are in relationships but doing this work on their own. I especially love working with those in between relationships, in a self-growth phase, getting clear on what they want before the next chapter. If you're ready to look at your patterns honestly and take action, this session is for you.
It's not for couples looking to work on the relationship together — my 1:1 work is individual, even when my clients are partnered. It's also not for anyone in acute crisis; if you need ongoing therapeutic support right now, a therapist is the better first step.
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The Strategy Session is really strategizing what direction you want to go in and how these sessions could be helpful for you. I may also recommend courses or guided meditations that I think would be beneficial.
You will learn strategies for becoming more secure in relationships, but the deeper work happens in the 1:1 attachment sessions (for which the Strategy Session is a prerequisite).
In contrast, the 1:1 sessions cover a variety of topics and use a variety of different processes that may include…
Finding a partner
Improving relationships
Changing attachment style
Getting over a breakup
Attracting the wrong partners
Picking a good partner
Anxiety around dating
Meeting people
Body language
Clearing pain that's keeping you from love
Abandonment issues
Trust/Feeling safe
Boundaries
Spotting red flags in a potential partner
Feeling insecure or jealous
Conflict resolution and communication
Communicating wants and needs
And use processes such as:
Dynamic Attachment Re-Patterning
Havening Techniques™
Deep somatic work
Rewiring techniques
Parts work
Nervous system regulation
Communication skills
Somatic hypnosis
Body language training
Confidence boosting
Visualization,
And more…
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I totally understand, process work is super valuable and can even be fun! The Strategy Session gives us an orientation as to what would be most helpful for you. Just like you wouldn’t go to a gym to work with a trainer and jump into a workout without reviewing your goals and areas that need training, the Strategy Session points us in the right direction.
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I'm perfectly imperfect like the rest of us — and definitely not an AI. If you follow me on Instagram or YouTube, you'll see I'm a real person, I hope! 😂
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Three things, most often: renewed hope, clarity on concrete strategies and next steps, and a real understanding of the patterns that have been running the show. Naming the pattern is often the turning point — you can't change what you can't see.
Discover what’s possible:
Create healthier relationship patterns that actually last
Navigate relationships with ease — no more overthinking every interaction
Release the exhausting cycles of obsessing, chasing, and waiting
Feel more love, security, and deep connection than you have in years
“I feel much more secure with myself and in my relationships.” - S.S.
“Kayli gave me many tools to help maintain my calmness and objectivity in very stressful situations. I feel as though I am now better equipped to handle highly emotionally charged situations with composure.”
“She helped me “rewire” my emotional responses so that I no longer blindly use maladaptive defense mechanisms and can now be more objective and deliberate in how I respond.
This has been extremely helpful, especially with my long term relationships that have not been healthy previously.” -E.L.
I felt an immediate wave of relief and gratitude after each of our sessions together… her clear-eyed feedback and objective support helped me move forward and change my negative patterns. - D.S.
Kayli provided a safe place to work through intimacy challenges, to talk through and explore what was present for me, and to work through an issue from my past that turned out to be holding me back. I was then able to start dating and am now married to a beautiful, incredible woman! — J.S.
“Kayil is a wonderful coach. She’s somewhere between a cheerleader and a loving parent for me. I have never felt judged nor pushed. Our weekly conversations have been eye-opening, occasionally very challenging and yet always life-changing. I feel supported and encouraged. - R.H.
Ready to Get Clear on Your
Path to Secure Love?
Book your Strategy Session below —
walk away knowing exactly what's been keeping you stuck, and what to do about it.
