Have you ever noticed how a few hours of waiting for someone to get back to you can feel like a huge rejection, even though objectively they haven’t rejected you?

For people with anxious attachment, these little gaps in communication can bring up a lot of emotion, second guessing, and self-blame.

Secure attachment is easier, but all the styles developed for a good reason. What can secure learn from other attachment styles?

Co-regulate (calm down and feel safer) with a partner! Learn what you can say and how you can say it that will help you and your partner feel calmer and able to talk about difficult topics.
Learn strategies that help your attachment system.