You felt the spark. The conversation flowed. But later that night? Your body was tense, your mind was spiraling, and you were left wondering:
Was I actually into them… or was my nervous system just activated?

If you’ve ever confused emotional intensity with connection—or felt drawn to people who made you feel anxious instead of safe—this post is for you.

If you tend to lean anxious in relationships—and you’re currently single or navigating the early stages of dating—you’ve probably been told this: date someone secure.

It’s solid advice. But here’s something that rarely gets talked about: not all secure partners feel the same.