If you’ve found yourself regularly losing interest in your partners, running away from love or you can’t ever seem to find a partner who measures up to that ideal person in your head, exploring attachment style can be a useful way to understand how to create relationships where you have a really great connection and feel understood.

An Anxious attachment style doesn’t mean you’re the only anxious one in the relationship, but it does come with certain challenges. Learn more about this attachment style in dating and relationships.

Anxious attachment usually stems from inconsistent or unpredictable connection in childhood. The result is a desire to keep someone close, and a fear of being abandoned.
Here are some triggers that people with anxious attachment often feel in the beginning stages and later on in relationships:

There’s a myth that people with avoidant attachment don’t want to be in relationships. The truth is, most folks with avoidant adaptation do want to be in a relationship but push their partner away because of underlying fears and triggers which we will explore now.

You may have heard of the anxious avoidant trap, where two people with different attachment styles in a relationship get entangled in a dance of disconnection where one withdraws while the other pursues.